Facebook “friending” and the dinner table
Over the past year I’ve had countless conversations with people about the quandaries of who to “friend” on Facebook. For some, the idea of rejecting a friend request feels rude. Yet, there is an awkward reluctance to let everyone “in.”
Here is a simple policy Bethany and I use for managing our Facebook friends: If we’re cool with you coming over and having a cup of coffee around the dinner table, then you’re in. If I don’t know you well enough to let you into my house for that sort of interaction, with my family…then I will deny your friend request. It’s nothing personal, its simply indicative of where our friendship is currently at.
Twitter on the other hand, is like the coffee shop. I’ll follow almost anyone who follows me and I’ll engage in a conversation with nearly anyone, about anything.
Online social interaction is on the rise. A quick tip to navigating the waters is to metaphorically attach a “real” social environment with an online one. By doing that you are able to align your expectations, content, and interactions with what is comfortable for you.